“Resolutions are about progress, not perfection”
The promise of the New Year makes optimists out of most of us. We feel empowered by the symbolic new beginning that it offers and want to reinvent ourselves. Most people make resolutions that involve the “commitment” to improve their lives. This commitment to a resolution can be a positive step towards self-improvement but there are certain realities that must be kept in mind when making the resolutions. First and foremost is the need to keep the resolution realistic. Grandiose goals that are unlikely to be achieved can lead to disappointment that may bring about negative traits that the individual is attempting to improve.
If a resolution to get clean and sober is made (whether at New Year’s or any other time), it is essential that any progress made towards achieving that end is embraced, even if there are setbacks. The road to recovery cannot be achieved through wishful thinking. Making a kind of “oath” on New Year’s does not involve any magical component that will render the goal easier to achieve. The commitment to a chemical dependency-free existence involves the same amount of work 365 days a year. The commitment is the beginning. What is most important after that commitment is the effort and progress that can only be realised through hard work. The problem with the resolution myth is that an “aura” seems to surround it that suggests that it will be easier to achieve if it is made at a certain time under certain conditions. Chemical dependency does not limit their excessiveness to one month of the year. It is an affliction that resonates throughout the year and any resolution or commitment to change that way of life is a positive and hopeful sign, regardless of what time of the year it is. The key is to recognise the hard work in recovery – work that can be facilitated through Silkworth Lodge – and to understand that the resolution of infatuation at New Year’s is more of a gimmick than a true path to recovery.
A big part of making sure that we follow through with resolutions is setting goals that are small, significant, and realistic. Instead of making promises and resolutions, you don’t intend to keep, start with something small. Have a look at the following realistic New Year’s resolutions for people in recovery which will help you brainstorm goals that will inspire you to stay on the path to sobriety:
Just because New Year’s resolutions have a track record of failure doesn’t mean that yours will be. There are measures we can take to realistically and successfully integrate New Year’s resolutions and recovery. If you’re committed to taking the path to recovery, any time of the year is a good time to start. Any step we take toward helping ourselves or the people we care about get help is progress.
The staff here at Silkworth Charity Group wishes everyone a safe, happy, and sober New Year.
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